12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

Majority of us forget the truth about relationship, and this sometimes makes your relationships more complicated than they are. After reading different articles and books, I gathered few things together, Here are simple reminders to help you keep them on track.

1) All successful relationships require some work. – Successful relationships don’t just happen, or maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Open communication and honesty is the key.

2) You get what you put in. – most of the time, you get what you put in your relationship, If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you’d like to feel understood, try being more understanding. It’s a simple practice that works.

3) You shouldn't have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. – Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they know your worth, they will create one for you. I always say to people never make someone your priority when you're only an option to them, if they know you're worth it they will make you their number one.

4)There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – People come into our life for different reasons and purpose, Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you. Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly.

5) We all change, which is only normal – Our needs change with time. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way. Don’t apologize for it. Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.

6)You are in full control of your own happiness. – happiness Is a choice you make , If your relationship with yourself isn’t working, don’t expect your other relationships to be any different. Nobody else in this world can make you happy. It’s something you have to do on your own. "And you have to create your own happiness first before you can share it with someone else. If you feel that it’s your partner’s fault, think again, and look within yourself to find out what piece is missing. "happiness is a choice you make".

7) Learn to forgive.. – Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. (read post: letting go of the past")

8) You cannot change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example. If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.

9) Arguments are a waste of time. – The less time you spend arguing with the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you. And if you happen to find yourself arguing with someone you love, don’t let your anger get the best of you. Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.

10) You are better off without some people. – When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. If someone continuously mistreats you or pushes you in the wrong direction, have enough respect for yourself to walk away from them. It may hurt for a little while, but it’ll be ok. You’ll be ok, and far better off in the long run.

11) Small gestures go a long way. – Honour your relationships in some way every chance you get. Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection. Remember, making one person smile can change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. Your kindness and gratitude matters.

12) Even the best relationships don’t last forever. – People don’t live forever. Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you. You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you. And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.


Love Life
OloriAmope x

Ten Signs You Need To Leave A Relationship.

Over the time and talking from experience, ;) I have come to realise that many women and men stay in relationships even though they know they're undervaluing themselves by being there. Sometimes they’re undervaluing themselves because the other person isn't good enough or the other person genuinely can’t handle the rights and responsibilities that come with a relationship. One of the most popular phrases that people use to conclude their relationship post mortem is…..

"The signs were there early on but I ignored them" or "looking back I wish i had listened to so so person (e.g your then selfish friend)

Signs you need to leave a relationship.....unless you want it to end disastrously....!

1) They tell you they don't want to commit: " We can't take this further because I'm not ready for what you really want" so you can be in the relationship but no commitment!

2) They tell you they don't want a relationship: so why are you there?

3) All your closest friends and family have concluded they're the anti-christ.

4) You're tired of trying to change them: you can't change a person, only God can.

5) You're trying to change them: don't even try it because it won't work.

6) They told you they're not ready even at the settling down age.

7) You have massive doubts that you channel by biting your nails and screaming at the homeless.

8) Women:- They make you cry (weekly)
Men: - They cause you utter the words "I hate me" (daily)

9) You've split up and made up so many times that everybody including you is confused with your relationship status.

10) You know it’s going nowhere and definitely going no where.
My dear RUN!



Love Life
Olori Amope xx

Beauty Pageant Contestant Wobbling On High Heels.

Miss Ivory Coast 2012 beauty pageant took place recently, unfortunately for one of the contestant her high heels had other plans for her. In as much as I felt pity for this contestant at the same time I cant help but laugh.

Funny Nigerian Girl Sings Nigerian National Anthem (Must watch-So hilarious)

A break away from life issues and inspirational talk, here is something I stumbled on which believe me will make you LOL. Well I found it hilarious so I decided to share it.

Letting Go Of The Past...

Over the years and from experiences I've always thank God for all the difficult people and situations in my life and also learnt from them, this is because they have shown me exactly who I do not  want to be. I've always learn from my mistakes because it helps me let go of my past rather than hanging on to it.

When you stay stuck in regret of the life you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself. We must let go of the life we had planned so we can enjoy the life that is waiting for us. Sometimes the paths we take are long and hard, But remember, these paths are often the ones that lead to the most beautiful views.

We sometimes spend too much time living in the 'what if' and need to learn to live in the 'what is.' Every moment you get is a gift, so spend it on things that matter. Don't spend it by dwelling on unhappy things. We all have time machines. Some take us back, they're called memories. Others take us forward, they're called dreams and anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realize that nothing really belongs to them. Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy, and serves no purpose in creating a better future and  Keeping baggage from the past will leave no room for happiness in the future. You cannot erase the past; you must let it go. You cannot change yesterday; you must accept the lessons learned. Expect something good to happen to you today no matter what occurred yesterday because the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let it go. Sometimes you've got to emotionally let go of the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pains they bring you, and open the next chapter in your life.

I've come to realise that one of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, loss, etc. Change is never easy - you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go. Don't let your shoulda's, coulda's and woulda's of yesterday determine your can's and will's of today. Don't allow worry, fear, and doubt to cloud your mind. Fear of what lies ahead can make it tough to let go of a bad relationship, but you must not be afraid to move on and discover how beautiful of a person you really are, and how bright the world really is.

Stop wasting time regretting what you did a year ago.  I as a person don't  believe in regret, id rather learn from my mistakes than say i regret ever doing something,  living in regrets can draw us back and make us stagnant. Because we are busy regretting the past it makes us divert and not focus on what we want to achieve in d future.  Start doing what you have to do now, so that in a year's time you wont regret what you did today. Be thankful for what you have: very very important, in every situation, always give thanks. I know so many times some of us think why am i here? I dont like my position, im tired etc. well You have no idea how many people would love to have what you've got or would love to be in your shoes. 

Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it? Live your life to the fullest cos YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE! (YOLO).

Love Life

Olori Amope xx
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