Say NO to Abuse Against Women!

 I was editing a post yesterday and took a break, alas I stumbled across an article on Facebook. A Nigerian woman was beaten to death by her husband and a few women have spoken out in response to this, you can read the article  here and here. As I read this story, it broke my heart.... we women we have a responsibility to break this cycle of abuse. This is such burden on my heart…. Hence this post.

“When are we as women going to realize that the change starts with us? That we are the ones who can break this cycle of abuse? That we need to make the right choices and contribute intently to raising up our children differently? We have little hope for this generation, but can we agree to start to positively influence the next generation?”

You will have to forgive me for pouring my heart out based on how I feel (the anger in me) and for having strong views for some topics but most especially against the abuse of women! I can't seem to emphasize it enough! Abuse against women is wrong!!!

Maybe I have a future as an activist fighting for the right of women or maybe it is from this medium (i.e. blog) that I will be able to reach out to men all over the world. Either way, the significance of respecting our women, (wives, daughters, and mothers) can never be undermined. Don’t get me wrong, men also get abused however the most common/popular is being perpetrated by the men on us and more in the institution of marriage.

If as a man you have known abuse and you have experienced pain, I would think that your conscience (and common sense) will prevent you from imposing the same abuse (in some cases, worse) on your woman. Have you no empathy for her feelings? If you hate women so much, why then do you need one in your home? To warm your bed and make your meals? If you despise the sight of her so much, why not set her free? Must you turn her into a slave to prove your manliness?

Side Bar: A man that hits his woman isn't a man, but a coward!

You marry/are with her to love and to cherish her; you are to protect and honour; for better or worse; in riches and in wealth; why then are you going back on your promise? Is it love to turn your woman into a maid in her own home? Hitting your wife, woman and mother of your child is not an honourable deed, and that’s not how to protect her! You married/are with her to be your partner, confidant, lover, mother, sister and best friend.

What sane man uses a weapon to hit his wife or even raise his hands on his wife? Have you no sense of right and wrong?! If you're so good at beating people up, then dude do me a favor…. hit the gym to work off your steam or better still go and fight your mate! Is it a thing of joy to know that your wife/girlfriend fears you? Does it excite you to know that she can't bear to look you in the eye and voice out her opinion? Do you get pleasure out of abusing her? Do you look in the mirror after hitting her and feel proud of yourself… saying Yes I’m The Man….. Excuse me, you are nothing but a coward!

We really should lay importance in educating our women. It is abnormal to be in an abusive relationship. Men that abuse women are MONSTERS in pretense of men! Women should be taught and learn how to love themselves, and not rely on a man. A woman that knows her right, worth and her place in the world cannot be intimidated by any man! No man can have any power over you if you do not give him the authorization. We need to teach our girls that an abusive relationship is not to be managed, it is to be left! We need to let them know that there are better and more caring men out there that would be lucky to have them. Respect but DON'T fear your man, he isn't your GOD!

In my honest opinion, a man that hits/abuse his wife or any woman indirectly hits/abuse his own mother, and he that disrespects his wife/ or any woman disrespects God.

Say NO to domestic violence… please walk away do not stay and say you are fasting and praying (I am not saying fasting and praying is not good) but please use your brain/head, God gave you wisdom. Stay alive for yourself and your family!

Darling it is time to WALK!

Until Next Time, Guard your Heart and Say NO to Abuse Against Women.

 

Love Life xx